Which do you think fuels romance in a relationship? A candlelit dinner at an elegant restaurant or coming home from work and discovering your partner has a load of laundry started?
If you say romantic dinner, you might be right, depending on the situation.
And, yet think of all the couples you see in restaurants, heads down, not talking, and focused on their phones. They might as well be home in front of the TV for all the engagement they are having with each other.
It turns out it is in the ordinary, ho-hum, mundane actions and interactions of everyday life where romance is fueled, in such a way, it ultimately contributes to a genuine connection during a romantic dinner. So much so, you might actually want to put your phone down so you can have that intimate conversation you’ve been craving.
According to John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, and author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, “real-life romance is fueled and kept alive each time you let your partner know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.” [Read more…]