I hosted a retreat on a lovely Saturday morning in January. In addition to those who attended, several special guests also joined our gathering: a gorgeous phoenix, in full plumage, rising from the ashes; a sassy, energetic, skirts and boots wearing cowgirl; a vibrant, healthy, dancing, hair-flowing old woman; and a strong, laughing, prepared wilderness guide all showed up on the scene.
Who were these magical beings? They were representations of our wise, inner selves. We each have available to us, the loving presence of our best selves. However, we don’t often stop in the midst of our busy lives and summon our Inner-Wisdom or take the time to listen and hear what she has to say.
This wise, loving soul, your Inner-Wisdom, would adore the opportunity to be the narrator for the “movie of your life.” However, she’s not one to claim center stage uninvited – she’s demure that way. She’ll defer to your current narrator – the less than kind, uber critical, fault-finding, loud-mouthed mean-girl; the Inner-Critic, who is currently directing your show – until you let her know exactly how fed up you are with the current scenes being played out in your life.
In the spirit of spring cleaning, I say, it’s time to schedule an audition for a completely new director-narrator – your Inner-Wisdom.
While I’d love to say it is super easy to give your Inner-Critic the pink slip and kick the posse of mean-girls out on their butts, it takes does take a little time and attention and a dose of lovingkindness.
Your Inner-Wisdom is delighted to take center stage. However, she’ll happily and playfully invite your Inner-Critic to be her dance partner until she’s ready for her Inner-Wisdom solo.
Let Your Inner-Wisdom Direct the Show
Notice your feelings.
If you are feeling gripped by feelings like anger, sadness, blame, insecurity, unworthiness, boredom, pessimism, frustration, impatience, disappointment, jealousy, etc. then likely your inner-critic has walked on stage and taken control of the script.
Breathe a big centering breath.
And take another breath, perhaps three. And, allow yourself to acknowledge the emotion of that moment.
The director, your Inner-Wisdom, would like you to name it, to say it out loud, for example, “I feel disappointed.”
Observe What Triggered Your Inner-Critic.
Is it something going on at work; maybe a social situation like a party, networking, or going out on a date? Perhaps it is walking into the calm, orderly home of a friend when yours is chaos; or maybe hearing about an adventurous vacation of a colleague? Often it is when we are in the midst of playing the joy-killing comparison game.
Breathe a Big Centering Breath.
And take another breath, perhaps three. Your Inner Wisdom will encourage you to simply be kind.
She will gently suggest you love the part of you that is feeling jealous or inadequate, awkward, angry, or sad, because it is only a part of you – not the whole of you.
Ask Your Inner-Critic to State Her Opinions.
Many times, simply inviting this character to speak allows you to truly hear how ungenerous, or mean-spirited or disempowered this part of you really is…and turns you much more readily to listen to the stage left whispers of your Inner-Wisdom. (Strangely enough, in trying to silence the Inner-Critic, she steals the show.)
Breathe a Big Centering Breath.
And take another breath, perhaps three. And, ask yourself. “What does my Inner-Wisdom know about this situation?”
And, then let this best part of yourself speak the truth of who you are and what your soul’s purpose might be in this moment.
Your Inner-Wisdom Solo
When you allow your Inner-Wisdom, the Best Self of your soul, to assume the lead role, it empowers the part of you which is ready to step up and escort your Inner-Critic off the stage. You do not need to be run by struggle, the need to compete, or to do whatever it takes to win – the beliefs which cause isolation, separation, and frustration.
Instead, the spotlight can now shine openly and freely from self-acceptance. Your Inner-Wisdom operates from a place of generosity and ease. When you listen to her, you have the choice to awaken to kindness and acceptance and open yourself to new possibilities and abundance.