“What is one thing you would do if you didn’t care what anyone else might think?”
I like this question and I ask it of my clients during our first coaching session. The answers are fascinating and they invariably reveal a hidden dream or desire. Often the answers reveal where the client is holding herself back, a place where the “shoulds” have outweighed the fun.
“I would live like a gypsy in a camper van and visit all the National Parks,” stated a client recently.*
“What’s compelling about that?” I asked.
“The simplicity, the freedom, the adventure, the endless hours of exploring,” she instantly replied.
The longings revealed of a busy mother with kids. One place for us to go exploring, during the session, was how to bring a little more simplicity, freedom, and adventure into the few hours of leisure time my client and her family does have.
“I remember those afternoons in college,” she said, “where time stretched out and anything could happen. Where we’d get in the car and just drive somewhere, anywhere on a whim.”
“Do you have any afternoons like that now,” I wondered, “where time opens up?” She admitted that there were the occasional weekend days where a few hours were available, but the time got used in ways that didn’t feel very satisfying, like watching a movie, or TV, or doing the laundry, since it was easier than coming up with a plan on short notice. So, as we talked, the question became: how to create easy opportunities for the satisfying levels of adventure and novelty she craved?
Then, the eureka moment! “I know,” she said. “We could create an Adventure Jar. We could fill it with places to explore, of things we like to do, that are within an hour’s drive or less.”
Of course, a fantastic idea! A little pre-planning with state and county maps, a little family brainstorming, while eating dinner or driving to soccer practice, about what things could be fun to do, and couple of Google searches for “Top Ten Family-Friendly Activities” or what have you, and the Adventure Jar is filled with exciting options. In a state like Wisconsin, there might be the Summer Adventure Jar and a Winter Adventure Jar keeping the activities seasonally appropriate.
Now, when those Saturday or Sunday afternoons open up, it will be super easy for my client to get her family out exploring. She’ll simply unscrew the lid, stick a hand in the jar, swish it around, and pull out a slip of paper containing the next adventure.
So, what about you?
What would you do if you didn’t care what anyone else thought?
What about that is compelling for you?
What can you do to bring a little bit more of that into your everyday life?
If you would like to explore your own answer to the above questions, then I would be happy to be your thought-partner.
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Give yourself the gift of space and time to reflect with a thought-partner. You can, of course, do this on your own some rainy afternoon, sitting with your journal.
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*Story used with client’s permission.