Perhaps, it’s only while dissecting the situation with a friend, a late-night chat over a glass of wine that you finally figure out that yes, you ARE pissed off, or deeply afraid, or saddened and wounded – and wouldn’t it have been GREAT to have access to that information a little sooner?
Emotions: Your GPS
Our amazing mind-body connection provides us with the perfect GPS to guide us forward – our emotions.
Learning to tune into your emotions allows you to be fully aware of what is going on for you moment-by-moment. This awareness allows you to choose your next response instead of shutting down or flying off the handle.
Being willing to befriend your emotions, instead of making yourself wrong for how you are feeling, opens you up to new ways of handling the daily stuff of life, and you can create an empowering response to events and circumstances.
Anger, for example, can point you towards:
- Understanding, which of the values you hold dear, just got stomped on; let your anger guide you towards actions which will ensure you stand up for yourself to clearly articulate your needs and wants.
- Accepting personal responsibility instead of using blame and justification to solve a problem.
Sadness, for example, can point you towards:
- Acknowledging the keen sense of loss – of value, of worth, of self-esteem – so you discover more empowering ways to be whole.
Fear, for example, can point you towards:
- Areas in your life where you crave greater safety and security so you can take the appropriate steps to provide yourself with what you need.
- Aspects of yourself you are afraid to admit, embrace, or love so you can actually make empowering changes so you can step up and make a bigger impact.
Where Emotions Live in Your Body:
I love a good cheat-sheet to help simply things. Our mind-body connection provides us with some important clues about our emotional state. It is interesting to note, the three three key drivers: anger, sadness, fear, each live in specific regions of our body.
Here are three key body areas to focus on and numerous possible sensations (you will likely notice others, too):
Back of neck, across shoulders, jaw: tight, bunched, cord-like, compressed, twisted, dense, clenched, hot, steely, pulling, etc.
Across high chest and upper throat: heavy, pressing, constricted, congested, achy, lumpy, searing, etc.
Around the navel area: racy/queasy, nauseous, fluttering, buzzy, butterflies.
This week, when life presents a challenging moment – and it will – stop for a minute and check in with your body to discover where you feel the most sensations.
Practice Noticing and Start with Baby-Steps:
1. The first BABY-STEP practice is to simply acknowledge, to yourself, your bodily sensations. Which daily hassle has you experiencing sensations in the “back of neck, shoulders, jaw” area, or the “high chest and upper throat” or “around the navel” area?
2. The second BABY-STEP practice is to acknowledge, to yourself, your accompanying emotions.
If you notice the neck/shoulders/jaw area fill in the following sentence with your phrase:
“I feel angry about _______________________________.”
e.g. “I feel angry about my bank balance.”
If you chose the high chest and upper throat area, fill in the following sentence with your phrase:
“I feel sad about ______________________________.”
If you chose the navel area, fill in the following sentence with your phrase:
“I feel scared about _____________________________.”
Another Baby-Step Practice: Schedule a Time To Thrive Strategy Session
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You’ll come out of our chat with a vision of what’s possible – it will motivate and inspire you for a while to come – I promise!