Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. When you occupy it, step into it consciously, you live it. ~ Gary Zukav
It is easy to SET an intention. It is equally easy to SABOTAGE an intention.
How are you doing 11 days into the New Year? Are you following through on your commitments to yourself or do you find yourself wavering?
If you are like me, you may have found yourself faltering – and not proud of it.
One of my intentions for 2016 is to consistently write what Artist’s Way author, Julia Cameron, calls “morning pages”. This stream-of-consciousness, early-morning writing is designed to unlock and begin filling our individual wells of creativity.
Since I intend to cultivate and infuse my life with a zestful flow of creativity, I committed to the idea of morning pages – or so I thought.
Say “NO” so You Can Say “YES”
My biggest downfall THIS morning was the glass of wine and less than healthy snacks I consumed LAST night. I didn’t stop to think about the consequences of my actions when I joined friends to watch the Packer Game: there were snacks, a cozy fire, and plenty of friends enjoying a glass of wine or bottle of beer. “What the heck“, I thought and poured myself a glass of cabernet and filled a plate with yummy snacks.
At 2:30 a.m. I radically regretted that decision; seems like on a semi-regular basis I need to re-learn this truth: red wine wakes me up in the middle of the night, and once awake, I find it hard to go back to sleep.
Guess how much I wanted to get up this morning when the alarm went off? Exactly.
It is clear, I need to be more thoughtful and INTENTIONAL about the choices I make the evening BEFORE so I can more easily remain committed to my larger intention for the year.
Preparation Impacts Performance
Turns out, even for a morning person like me, getting up out of bed, when the alarm rings a little earlier than usual, requires more preparation the evening before AND the willingness to say NO to activities which don’t support my intention to write in the morning.
This means saying NO to a glass of wine during the week. Beyond saying, “No” which sounds so easy until faced with a cozy fire and a lively party atmosphere (my wine-drinking triggers); I will need to PREPARE myself as I head into week-night social situations. Clearly, I will need to remember WHY it is important to me to decline a glass of wine; I will need to be organized and have fizzy water on hand so I have something semi-yummy to drink instead of wine, and I will need to practice the art of declining a glass poured by a gracious host.
This morning, I relied completely on willpower to get out of bed. I know from experience (and science) that sleep deprivation is an enormous willpower zapper. If I don’t get good sleep tonight I can kiss an early morning writing session good-bye tomorrow.
Questions for Intentional Living
What about you?
What did you intentionally say “YES” to in 2016?
What will you need to intentionally say “NO” to in order to fully participate in your commitment to yourself?
How will you prepare ahead of time so you aren’t caught off-guard by a particular trigger?
What needs to happen so you can whole-heartedly re-commit to your 2016 intentions?
And, if you’d like some support as you explore who you want to be and what actions you want to take to keep your commitment(s) to yourself, please contact me. As always, I’d love to connect with you.