Halloween officially kicks off the “Holiday Season” at least to my way of thinking with all the parties and the glossy magazine spreads displaying beautiful parents and adorable children at cozy pumpkin carving gatherings; thus the gloom begins to set in. The sadness can be triggered by noticing the elaborate Halloween decorations at a neighboring home. Depending on where you are along the trail of the infertility journey, even the aisles at Target jam-packed with orange and black trinkets can drive a knife into your heart. I know, because my own journey took me to some very low points.
It is our own internal gremlins, those little blood-thirsty vampires eagerly sinking their teeth into our necks, who are most effective at sucking the joy right out of Halloween; constantly reminding us of the lack of adorable children in our lives. I say it is time to take back the night from these creatures. It is time to redefine and embrace the holiday from a different perspective.
Consider taking a page out of the Childfree Living Playbook and own Halloween as a grown-up holiday:
- Leave all the cutesy stuff behind and use your creative talents to plan your most amazing costume. Seriously, a number of my childfree women friends have been planning their costumes since August – I kid you not!
- Plan a cocktail party and pumpkin carving evening – Do the activities you crave – there isn’t any reason to wait until you have kids to carve a pumpkin. Besides, a cocktail in the company of sharp knives is only a combination an adult should undertake.
- Seek out grown-up gatherings. Now is the time to seek out some big-town fun. Check out the bands and clubs – there is a party out there – go find it! Granted, this could require some driving to a bigger city if you live in Small-Town, USA….trust me….I know all about driving to escape Small-Town, USA.
- Call a bonfire party. Several of our friends host events like LogFest at this time of year. Seriously, without children around, you can create a massive display of fire power.
- Focus on a romantic getaway – if you live in Small-Town, USA, and you are one of the few households without children – then a weekend away to enjoy the fall colors while hiking or exploring a new town might be just the ticket.
- Plan to go out to dinner and movie on Halloween. Honestly, you are helping fight the childhood obesity epidemic by using putting your money towards a night out instead of handing out fistfuls of candy. America’s children will eventually get around to thanking you. 🙂
I’d love to hear your ideas of what you and yours came up with to claim the Halloween “Holiday” for yourselves! Feel free to post your claim on happiness this season.
And, now I’m off to figure out what to pair with those boots!
Peace (and a cauldron full of joy) to you.