Welcome. I know what is it like when life veers radically off course.
I am keenly aware of how quickly circumstances can alter one’s life: infertility, infidelity, miscarriage, divorce, you know – little events like that.
I spent my thirties doing the right things: I attended to my career; I joined clubs and organizations in my community; my husband and I bought a lovely old house (read fixer-upper); we spent time fixing up said house; we made friends and hosted parties. In short, we were going about our adult lives with an eye towards a future with children – kids playing in the backyard under the enormous Silver Maple tree.
Then the long, heartbreaking, lonely years waiting for babies to arrive; however, we didn’t just sit twiddling our thumbs; we got busy with Clomid and then several rounds of IUI; eventually we tried IVF.
Our first round of IVF was successful. I was pregnant, but almost immediately my husband asked for divorce and moved in with his girlfriend.
I miscarried – alone. We divorced. I was devastated. I was left with the task of rebuilding my life from the ground up.
Designing My One Wild and Precious Life:
One day, seeking solace, I came across Mary Oliver’s poem, Summer, and was struck by the last line “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
I truly began to wonder – what was my plan?
I realized a conscious design was in order.
I realized I was tired of living in the past. I was tired of comparing the life I was living to the one I thought I was going to get and finding it lacking. I needed a Plan B I could get excited about. First, I needed to get clear on a few things:
What I was willing to let go of?
What I was willing to say YES to and fully embrace?
How much joy and happiness I was willing to allow into my world?
It truly was a journey – a long, epic one. Dragons needed to be slayed.
I discovered just how brave, strong, and capable I am. I am now well on the other side.
From here, the sky is blue, the sun shines bright, and the trail is wide and grassy.
I am delighted to report: a precious, beautiful, active, creative, and happy life was created– a life of my choosing, a life by design.
Ultimately, it has been the best expedition I’ve ever been on.
However, I often wished for a companion, a guide.
I wished for someone who had gone before
I wished for someone who knew when to hold out a hand
I wished for someone to help me off a ledge or over a particularly tricky boulder.
That is why I am here.
I am passionate about providing compassionate, loving support for individuals who find themselves on a crazy ride life becomes when it veers off course, across uncharted terrain.
The work we do together helps them embrace who they are, right now, and their current circumstances.
The work we do together helps them fill up their tool box with effective Happiness Habits and plenty of Thriving Strategies for greater resilience and well-being.
This acknowledgement creates the space for something new: the opportunity to wholeheartedly design lives from a place of joy and vibrancy, and the commitment to living powerfully, purposefully, and happily.
Other things you might want to know about me:
I read mystery novels, voraciously. I recommend all of Donna Leon’s Commissario Brunetti’s series.
I was born in Brussels, Belgium, grew up in Zaire, Africa – birth to 18 years old – my parents were Mennonite missionaries. We’re all originally from Kansas and Nebraska. I now consider Wisconsin home.
My name is pronounced: Lee-zee-Anne (Lysianne) Un-roo (Unruh) – Thanks for that, Mom and Dad! – Kidding.