The oak stands vulnerable, exposed; her proud structure revealed.
This tree reminds me of Mary*, a client I talked with this morning who, between our sessions, had taken a powerful stand for herself.
She decided. She absolutely did not want to host Thanksgiving dinner for her extended family, a gathering of 21 some people, which in the past, has been a drama-laden affair.
It is an event which has left her feeling exhausted and disconnected – she’s been too busy cooking and tending to everyone’s needs to have the relaxed, in-depth, one-on-one conversations which feed her soul.
Mary’s been practicing listening to her wise inner voice – the one who:
wants the best for her,
encourages her to claim and honor her values,
gives her permission to ask for what she wants,
helps her muster the courage to stay strong even in the face of what might not be a popular decision.
Listening to this wise inner voice – the one who functions as a kind, supportive friend – helped Mary become clear on how she wants to experience Thanksgiving this year.
She wants to be relaxed while she cooks a manageable amount of food, she wants the space to delve into meaningful conversation, and she wants to spend quality time with her children, their partners, her husband, and perhaps a few friends.
She wants the opportunity to focus on what she considers the true spirit of the holiday – gratitude – without the distraction of hosting a big, noisy event.
What fell away, like the leaves on the tree, was the need to please others.
As this people-pleasing-leaf fluttered to the ground, a cascade of others also began to tumble to the ground:
like the need to sacrifice her true desires;
the fear of what others might think;
the sense of guilt, obligation, and duty.
The resolve I heard in Mary’s voice was RADIANT, bright like the sun, highlighting the true essence of her being, revealing her inner strength.
As Mary spoke I got the super-clear image, in my mind’s eye, of Mary standing strong like a bare Oak tree; her true desires exposed – feeling a bit naked.
There is something so vulnerable and powerful in standing up and actually stating what it is you want.
It can be terrifying. It is liberating. It is strength. It is courage. It is courageous.
I have no doubt Mary will experience one of the best Thanksgivings she’s ever hosted.
What about you?
Are you ready to listen to your wise inner voice?
Will you allow this kind, supportive wisdom guide you towards creating a holiday season more closely aligned with your values?
What do you need to let go of? What leaves need to fall away so you can stand tall, strong and completely rooted in the best part of you?
* not her real name, and story used with permission.
Here’s to YOUR thriving!
P.S. I’d love to learn what your inner-wisdom wishes for you this holiday season.
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